Formula for Solving Worry
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living – book review pt.2. Click here for pt. 1.
“Confusion is the Chief Cause of Worry”
Worry puts us in a state of confusion. Our brains begin racing with all the possible bad outcomes. Then panic sets in. But what has this really achieved? Absolutely nothing. In fact, it brings us further from solving the situation at hand. It has been said that “seventy per cent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they only got rid of their fears and worries”. The mind and body are more connected than we think. I know this to be true in my own life. I compared my medical bills to stressful times in my life and the two were directly correlated.
So how should we deal with worry?
- Get the facts…and write them down. This can seem too obvious, but even Aristotle found it important to teach. When a situation arises, “analyze the situation fearlessly and honestly”. It can help if you pretend you are getting the facts for someone else. This can eliminate the emotional aspect.
- Analyze the facts. Based on what you’ve written down, analyze the best possible solution. Figure out what’s the worst that could possibly happen and then accept it. Calmly try to improve upon what you have already accepted. There may be a way to lessen the blow.
- Arrive at a decision–and then act on it. Once you have arrived at the best possible solution, action is key! Based on Dale Carnegie, fifty per cent of his worries usually went away after finding the solution and another forty per cent after the action had begun.
The book reiterates that writing down worries, solutions and action plans are important. This process helps to clarify the thinking process. Try this process out and see how it works!